Where is he?

Sometimes I think I might be one of those women who will be single until I'm like 50. It's a rough time for single women, especially single black women. Believe me, im not really on the prowl for a man right now, but of course I have taking a look at the men in the area. It looks rather hopeless. I've never seen so many gold teeth in all of my life. I can't understand half of them when they speak, and they care more about pimpin' out their Caddy's and Caprices to bother putting on a clean shirt when they step outside of their doors. So, naturally I turn my sights on the men at my church. There are definetly a good grip of good looking men, but just as soon as I get my hopes up, something brings me right back down. Either a piece jewelry on his left hand, or pushing a baby stroller with his wife tagging close behind. But its always a let down when you see a tall, dark, and handsome brother, whose middle name has to be hershey... Carrying his bible, singing to all the songs. Then you see him outside the church shaking hands with his limp wrist and designer shades, while greeting all of his female friends with "Heeeeeyyyy Guurrrlll!" Oh yes Gay men are all up in the church. Ladies the stereotype is true. The downlow epidemic is a definite concern. And us ladies cannot even find refuge in the church, amongst the choir loft or praise team. Like I said earlier, its a rough time for us.


I can say this...I know it won't be easy since I finally realize the desires of my heart now. I'm not just looking for a random arms to hold me, or any sweet voice to soothe me. I won't settle for mediocrity, because I know God has a prince prepared to treat me like his princess. I really don't think I ask for much. Just a few credentials I look for.

1. First and foremost, I need a God fearing brother who Loves the Lord more than me. Involved in the church, and just a good SDA man.

*The numbers after 1 are very much interchangeable.

2. Sense of Humor is very important. I love to laugh and I want my man to be able to make me laugh. Also I want to have the type of relationship where we can poke fun at each other (in a joking manner) and just have fun.

3. Passionate...Just in general. About his family, friends, work, ambitions. I think a man who is passionate about what he does, and who he loves will be successful.

4. If we're married I like a man who knows his position in the family. He is a father figure, and just like in my family, he is the head of the household. BUT understand he doesn't abuse it.

5. Always wiling to give to others. Generosity is very much appealing.

6. Physically I'm not even trying to be picky, but I would like a man who can dress well. Not suits all day, but knows how to dress well for the occasion, and has pride in his appearance.

OK OK I've gone too far too soon. But I'm not worried. God will send Mr. Right, and not Mr. Right now. I will just keep praying for him to come when the time is right.

"Happiness is falling asleep next to you and waking up thinking I'm still in my dreams."